Do You Really Want an Ambitious Man?
First, I would like to congratulate Barack Obama for becoming the first black President of the United States of America. It has always been said that behind every successful man is a strong woman. I believe this to be true in a lot of cases. President Obama has Michelle just as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., had Coretta. Where am I going with this? I hear a lot of women say they want a successful man, but are they willing to be patient and sacrifice time away from him to build his family’s future and to become successful.
Every successful man or woman started with a vision. A person’s vision can be described as his or her goals, dreams, or aspirations. Prior to engaging in a committed relationship you should get an understanding of your mates’ goals in life as well as their vision. Coretta understood and saw Dr. King’s dream and vision. With that understanding she knew it would take countless hours writing speeches, organizing, and participating in demonstrations; while still being the leader of his congregation. Basically, she stood by his side and sacrificed a lot of time to help him change a nation and inspire generations of people after him. I’m quite sure there were difficult times within their marriage, but it lasted until his demise. For some reason, I just can’t imagine Coretta yelling, “Martin, How may times you plan on marching this month?” Every time I turn around you got to be somewhere marching Martin!” “What about me and the kids Martin?” Just think, if she didn’t encourage and sacrifice that time to support Dr. King’s vision, we may not have our 44th President of the United States of America, Barack Obama.
First Lady, Michelle Obama is another example of a lady who understood her man’s vision and supported him. Prior to this historic election; ladies imagine your black husband saying to you, “Honey, I want to be the president of the U.S.A.!” Some of you would have discouragingly and sarcastically said, “Really Barack, Really?!” “Why not turn water to wine while you’re at it!”
Now I ‘m clueless to every detail of running a campaign, but I’m sure it requires a lot of time. President Obama had to spend a lot of days away from his wife and family to become who he is today. Michelle never led him to believe his dream could not be achieved, but she stood by her man and supported him every step of the way. Not once did she say, “Barack how many times you plan to go to Iowa? Didn’t you campaign in Iowa last month?” Mrs. Obama’s diligence and support has allowed her to enjoy the fruits of her husband’s labor and now she sits on the throne as First Lady of our country. This illustrates one supportive woman who believed in her husband’s dream, which inspired another man’s dream whom both have inspired the world.
The point of this blog is not to say; if you let your man spend time away from home he’ll become successful. Balance is the key in any relationship. It’s to make people more conscious of what it really means to supports their mates vision. If you’re someone who needs an excessive amount of time and attention from your mate, then you may not be compatible with a highly ambitious person. There are some people who will only want to live mediocre lives and there are others who will go above and beyond. It’s up to you to decide what you want to in a relationship with someone who wants to go above and beyond. There's nothing wrong with mediocrity, but you must except the person you chose. One should not get involved with someone if you are not interested in supporting his or her goals and aspirations. A successful athlete has a lot of practice, training, and away games. A successful pastor must tend to all the needs of the church and its people. A successful entrepreneur must create business strategies, solicit clients, and network. Last, but not least; a successful COMEDIAN has to write jokes, rehearse jokes, and go the comedy club whether he performs or not for networking purposes. I once dated a young lady who said, “It's not that much comedy to do in the world!” Needless to say; we don’t date anymore. What's the point if your plans are to disrupt my vision? I already know the consequences of being involved with someone who felt neglected because I was GRINDING. Fabolous has song titled Make Me Better. The chorus says “I’m a movement by myself, but I’m a force when we’re together.” He's basically saying he's already on the path to making it happen and you can be that one piece to help him make it there. Inspire and support your mate so that you both can enjoy the success. Make sure you check out my next blog. I'm still trying to decide on the title. It may be "No One is Thrilled by the Chase" or "Sorry, I Don't Want What I Can't Have." Either way you get it.
In closing, if you really want to know what a man on a mission would like from his lady, I encourage you to listen to WORDS of the songs below by Raheem Devaughn -Mo' Better, John Legend- Live It Up, Calvin Richardson- More Than a Woman, and Fabolous- Make Me Better. Click on the link that says, "Play full song here". Please post your comments. Click on comments below the last music box. Thanks!!!
Comedian Marion Kendrick
Raheem Devaughn - Mo' Better
John Legend - Live It Up
Calvin Richardson - More Than a Woman
Fabolous - Make Me Better